How tired are you right now?

How tired are you feeling right now? And does that surprise you?

I hear you. Me too. It’s a bit of a roller coaster, isn’t it? Shattered one day, full of projects and passions and productivity the next.

I wish. Although there have been one or two great ideas and good moments recently. And several days of not so much. Are you with me?

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Many of us are experiencing mini-bereavements right now. And bereavement is exhausting.

Loss of normal. Loss of social connections. Loss of favourite foods, loss of security, loss of usual routines….. They are all mini bereavements.

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And bereavement as we know can cause many reactions - tiredness, bewilderment, anxiety, sleeplessness, even anger and confusion. A desire for carbs - or no desire for food whatsoever; the urge to over-exercise - or the need for a total duvet day or three; a need to tidy and declutter - or the inability to remove any dust or clutter whatsoever. The inability to pray. Or read. Or be nice to others who live in my house. And even a total mixture of all those, depending on which day it is.

I don’t even know which day it is, some days. Do you? One day I’m full of plans and projects and procedures to DO stuff; the next I’ve decided to become a sleeping hermit and never do anything ever again. And some days I say, where is God in all of this?

So I’m giving up trying to be normal and carry on.

Instead I’m allowing myself to do what helps when it helps.

And that varies from day to day too. One day it’s a long bubble bath accompanied by scented candles and a good ( and definitely not heavy in any sense) book. The next it’s a long brisk walk. One day it’s a whole packet of ginger biscuits or digestives, the next it’s a meal of purple sprouting broccoli. One day it’s writing a whole chapter, the next it’s gazing out of the window in tears.

And it will all be different for each one of us. I’m not home schooling fractious anxious children nor running a multi level company from my living room. Nor trying to do both at the same time. We each have to cope with different things and we each have to discover what helps us to cope. For the long term. Because I don’t think this WILL be all over by Easter or soon after, whatever some Presidents may say. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

SO I have been ruminating about what will happen when we emerge from this ‘pandemic’ which is uppermost in people’s minds right now. Will the relief override the austerity which will inevitably immediately ensue due to the financial constraints we are under? Rather as the Roaring Twenties succeeded the deprivations of the Great War?

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Will the Church have found good new ways to BE church and be able to continue to build on that? Will we as Christians have learned to say not, “We are Christians, here’s our building, come and join us,” but to say “We are Christians, we ARE the church, we are coming to serve you in whatever way we can in your community.”

And will we have found new deeper intimacy with Christ as a result of this unexpected time that most of us now have? (of course, many are now overworked, especially those in our health service, hospitals and surgeries. What will the Christians there have experienced and learned?) 

At the moment, all I can say is, 
Lord have mercy. Send the Spirit. We need you. 

And perhaps that’s enough, and what we need to learn to say. He is with us, IN and THROUGH these deep deep waters. 

Your plans are still to prosper
You have not forgotten us
You're with us in the fire and the flood
You're faithful forever
Perfect in love
You are sovereign over us - Michael W. Smith

If all I can do is to hang on to words like those, or maybe to Psalm 23 , or whatever to words from Scripture and song give hope, then that’s enough for now. It may be finger-tip hanging. But we’re still hanging in there. Right?

So I’m taking my helpful words and sticking them up where I’m reminded of them often. Repeating them to myself a lot during a day. Putting the worship CDs on.

And they can’t ban spring. It’s the springiest spring ever sprung. As Dennis Potter said, it’s the whitest, frothiest, blossomest blossom that there ever could be. The nowness of everything is absolutely wondrous.”

Thank you Lord

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GOING DEEPER BOX SET

Are you wondering what to read during these strange times?

Would you like to deepen your intimacy with God?

And do you like a bargain?!

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FACE to FACE by Jen Baker

FINDING MYSELF IN BRITAIN by Amy Boucher Pye

TAKING OFF THE MASK by Claire Musters

WALKING BACK TO HAPPINESS by Penelope Swithinbank

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"‘God in heaven is stretching out his hand, eyes dancing with the light of love, heart filled with expectation and desire, saying to you: “May I have this dance?”’ God longs for us to personally experience more of him, but so often we refuse or feel unable to draw close to him. Even the great hero of faith Moses hid his face from God, yet was eventually transformed into someone who space face to face with him. Jen Baker explores Moses’ life to see how he was able to move from hiddenness to holiness and encourages us to follow his example. Interwoven with personal testimony, Jen gently challenges and shows us how to move out of the shadows and into the light of God’s love. Whether you feel distant from God or want to deepen your relationship with him, Face to Face will help you to experience God in a new and powerful way.

https://www.jenbaker.co.uk

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A loving through-the-year look at life in the UK from an American’s point of view, from Harvest through to Wimbledon, with insights about identity, hope and grace woven in. As one Amazon reviewer said, "What struck me most about this book was that it radiated positivity. There was no running away from difficulties, disappointments, heartaches, hard truths and trouble, but warmth and grace won out. It was a mind-opening look at our own culture from the standpoint of another, but for me the spiritual insights were the true nuggets.”

https://amyboucherpye.com


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Church can be the best but also the worst of places. Our faith needs community to survive but why do so many of us wear masks as soon as we step inside a church meeting of any type, hoping to show that we have everything ‘together’? What creates a culture that makes us think we are supposed to behave in a certain way? Surely church should be a place of acceptance, love and freedom? So why do so many of us feel like we can’t truly be ourselves? I have been grappling with these questions ever since a painful and humbling situation forced me to remove my own mask. I now firmly believe that too often we hide our true selves from the world behind masks we have carefully constructed, but this is not how God created us to be. Taking Off the Mask charts my own personal experience and provides lessons and pointers on how each of us can take off our masks to live a freer and more authentic life.

https://clairemusters.com


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What if backpacking across France could restore your broken life? Two vicars, their marriage in tatters with wounds reaching far back into the past, set out on a journey to find healing and restoration. Their route will take them from the Mediterranean to the Atlantic, but will it help them find their way home? Along the 320-mile route across rural France, burdened by backpacks and blisters, Kim and Penelope stumble across fresh truths, some ordinary, others extraordinary. But will they be defeated by the road ahead or triumph over the pain of the past? Is there a chance they'll find themselves in France and walk back to happiness? In this simple but enchanting book, part travelogue and part pilgrimage, Penelope invites you to walk with her and her husband on their epic journey as they encounter new faces and new experiences, and reconnect with each other and with God. Every step of the way, you'll discover more about yourself and what's really important to you.

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How to create rhythm in times of uncertainty

Is it really only the start of week two? This time of fearful uncertainty and world pandemic - haven’t we been here for months already? How will we keep going for another month or three or more?

Maybe you’ve been practicing the 30 second retreat - the post on my blog last week has been shared and commented on more than any other. (if you missed it, it’s here - just click) Making the most of this unexpected time. Unexpected - we’re either self isolating with little to do to fill our days, or even busier than ever if we're key workers struggling to cope with what’s going on.

photo from Unsplash by Anthony Tran

photo from Unsplash by Anthony Tran

Life is different. The world is different. The situation changes from day to day. Hour to hour. And Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever.

So I thought it best to concentrate on the One who never changes, and not on what’s going on around me. i no longer listen to the hourly news. Once a day in the evening is sufficient, thank you. I’m self-isolating - walking and reading and writing; tidying the house and the garden, phoning friends and rediscovering the lost art of writing proper letters. And the days fly past. if I’m not careful, the moments fritter away, I forget which day it is, and my eyes no longer keep looking to Jesus.

I need a rhythm. Not routine - that word sounds far too rigid and disciplined and frankly boring! “I broke lose for one day from routine, from drudgery and harness,” says a character in Jessie Fothergill’s ‘The First Violin.’ We don’t want drudgery, harness, routine .

What we need is a life-giving rhythm to our days.

Monasteries and convents and holy places have rhythms of prayer, or the Liturgy of the Hours, often called by their Latin or Greek names - Matins (middle of the night!) Lauds (dawn) Prime (first hour of daylight) Terce (third hour) Sext (noon)  Nones (ninth hour)  Vespers (sunset) Compline (end of the day).

Lovely - except that there’s no way I’m going to be doing all that, if I’m totally honest.

But three times a day I eat - that’s life giving. Why not three times a day to have life giving moments with God? Morning, noon and night. I’m bound to forget - so perhaps an alarm on my iPhone set to remind me. That’s what the church bells are for - to call people to remember to pray. We just do it digitally now .

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And how to spend a few moments at each of our three set times? Four suggestions - and you’ll have your own ideas.

- pray for our world; for family and friends; for our key workers; our church family ……

- read through the Psalms. I like using the 30 method. Day 1: read Psalm 1 plus 30 several times = Psalm 1, 31, 61, 91, 121; Day 2: Psalm 2 plus 30 several times = Psalm 2, 32, 62, 92, 122. Right through to day 31 when you read the whole of Psalm 119. Maybe divide up your reading between the 3 times a day?

- BE. Sit and just BE. Maybe enjoy looking at signs of the burgeoning of spring. Invite Jesus to BE with you and relish his company.

- Sing. Listen to a worship song; or bird song; or the song of your heart. Sing out loud or silently. (better out loud?)

What will you do? And when will you do it - when will you have the times that give your day rhythm and joy? That will be life giving?

And when you’re needing to get away from it all why not read a book about a long walk in France, to take your mind off other things?

“I wanted to send you a quick note to tell you how much I have loved reading walking back to happiness at bedtime the last couple of weeks. I have really been blessed by the story and by your wonderful writing style Penelope. I really think it can be such a great encouragement to people ….. I love Everything about it😊” - JY, pastor in Virginia, USA

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Fasting and Feasting in Lent.

FEASTING in Lent? Really?

Isn’t it all about giving things up? Especially the things you like the most ….

Or even just giving up…

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Or maybe GIVING UP giving up.

Because we could TAKE UP instead.

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Forty days of renewal.

Forty days to go deeper.

Apparently it takes 21 days to confirm a new habit and 42 days to make it a lifestyle.

What new, or re-newing, lifestyle could help your journey with the Lord?

What could you TAKE UP instead of (or as well as) GIVING UP?

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Giving up chocolate? And alcohol? Sugar or biscuits? Coffee or tea?

What do you give up for Lent?

They’re all good and helpful, and in giving them up it helps guard us from gluttony and desire and filling our minds with what might be unhelpful things. Reminding us that we are, essentially, dust. Easily trapped into wanting more of what’s not helpful.

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I’m TAKING UP a daily devotional for Lent, something I do every year.

This year, it’s THE GRACE FILLED WILDERNESS by Magdalen Smith

Here’s the online blurb:

The Grace-filled Wilderness connects contemporary encounters of wilderness with the traditional themes of Lent and Jesus' journey to the cross. Magdalen Smith invites us to consider a series of subjects that are double-edged - they can bring us life or, if we handle them in the wrong way, drain life from us.

Our appetites, our identity, our work, our sense of freedom and our struggles with anxiety and pain are explored in connection with what it means to be a follower of Jesus.

Six full weeks of readings help us to move gradually from wilderness to grace, until, finally, we encounter the miracle, hope and joy of Easter.

'On every page of this Lent book, there's an invitation to journey which is as enticing as it is challenging. I found myself wanting to venture into the wilderness out of choice and not simply circumstance, and the adventure left me seeing, feeling and sharing in God's grace.'
Jo Wells, Bishop of Dorking

Join me on the journey?

And tell me what you’re GIVING UP and TAKING UP on your journey through Lent to Easter day?

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Does love mean never having to say you're sorry?

and - a Valentine's Day special offer for you right at the end  .....


LOVE MEANS NEVER HAVING TO SAY
YOU'RE SORRY

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 It’s the famous line from the 1970 film, “Love Story” which Vanity Fair magazine later judged to be one of the 25 greatest love stories the movies ever told. The American Film Institute ranked it  number 9 in the most romantic films list. 
 
“Love Story” has its 50th anniversary this year – really? How ever is it 50 years since I sat and sobbed through this film?


The anniversary is being celebrated in movie theatres in the US this February. How romantic is that! And we will all be reminded that love means never having to say you’re sorry. 
 Is that it? Is that true love?  Love means never having to say you’re sorry?

I know from personal experience that the phrase must be one of the worst things to believe or practice, one of the saddest definitions ever of love. 
 
Because I find apologising, saying sorry, to my nearest and dearest one of the most difficult things to do, I’ve relied on that phrase to see me through. Oh, I may not have really believed you never have to say sorry to those you love; but I certainly acted as if it I believed it. They love me, I reasoned to myself; they understand me. They forgive me, I’m sure, or they’ll know I didn’t mean it.
 
Life goes on and we’ll be fine.
Except we weren’t.
Things began to go wrong in my marriage, and I took it for granted that we had a good marriage and that after all those great years, loving years, nothing could touch us.
 
Well, it did, as you know if you’ve read my book, “Walking Back to Happiness.”  And so we separated…..

To read more, hope on over on this link: http://bit.ly/2tNZGxf

Want to do a long walk – from the comfort of your armchair? 
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Not One But Two Special things - and one is free!

Not one but TWO special items today - a thank you for your support, encouragement and readership  over the past months.  You are very much appreciated.  The first is a gift for you this weekend only  WALKING BACK TO HA…


Not one but TWO special items today -
a thank you for your support, encouragement and readership 
over the past months. 
You are very much appreciated.

The first is a gift for you this weekend only

WALKING BACK TO HAPPINESS
(the story of walking right across France to help restore a broken marriage) is

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Perhaps download it for free now;
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Happy Christmas!


Part travelogue, part memoir, this is a book to enjoy from your armchair! Easy to read, even for those with dyslexia, and with colour photos included.

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Sending Christmas greetings to you.
This Christmas may you know 
God's Greatest Gift to be your Greatest Joy


- Penelope x

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